Friday, January 22, 2010

the bar has been set...

inspiration: I Kissed Dating Goodbye & Captivating

I read this poem at the end of a chapter in I Kissed Dating Goodbye entitled "Ready for the Sack But Not for the Sacrifice". It's about how we (as girls) tend to equate marriage with beautiful wedding dresses, flowers, the "perfect" ring and the "perfect" ceremony and how guys tend to equate marriage with sex. Granted, these may be stereotypical, but when it comes down to it, both parties must be willing to look beyond what the fa├žade of marriage to accept its true value and significance to God.

I do not want to be regarded only as my husband's "maid, servant, or cook". Instead, I want to be regarded as an essential element to a man. Captivating authors John & Stasi Eldredge outline that a woman's heart longs to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty. I want my role as a wife to be to respect and honor my husband and for he to love me; for our marriage to reflect the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:32-33):

But this poem by Lena Lathrop entitled "A Woman's Question" made me realize that it's okay to have my standards set high and to want to wait for a man who regards marriage in the same light that I do:

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the hand above?
A woman's heart, and a woman's life--
And a woman's wonderful love.

Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy?
Demanding what others have died to win
With the reckless dash of a boy.

You have written my lesson of duty out,
Manlike, you have questioned me.
Now stand at the bars of my woman's soul
Until I shall question thee.

You require your mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart be as true as God's stars
And as pure as His heaven your soul.

You require a cook for your mutton and beef,
I require a far greater thing;
A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts---
I look for a man and a king.

A king for the beautiful realm called Home,
And a man that his Maker, God,
Shall look upon as he did on the first
And say: "It is very good."

I am fair and young, but the rose may fade
From this soft young cheeck one day;
Will you love me then, 'mid the falling leaves
As you did 'mong the blossoms of May?

Is your heart an ocean so strong and true,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.

I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give this all, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.

If you cannot be this, a laundress and cook
You can hire and little to pay;
But a woman's heart and a woman's life
Are not to be won that way.

The bar has been set.
In the meantime, my heart belongs to God and God alone.

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